Recently, I read an article written
by Stephanie Ericsson. The article is about “The Way We Lie.” It is really interesting
because we all lie. Telling the truth makes people feel like they cannot do
anything. It is really harmful “when someone lies and someone loses. “I
disagree with Ericsson about the white lies always hurting someone. She says
that the person lying is trying to act better than the person who is lied to,
but I think that is wrong.
In the article, Ericsson used five types of
lies, and the first one is “The White Lie”, which is truth more painful to
people than a false statement because it hurts people’s feelings and hope. Secondly,
the author used “Facades” (mask). When she puts on clothing to see clients, she
feels like she is wearing another person’s face, but the mask can be
destructive because it is used to corrupt others as a misleading impression of
reality. The third one is about “Ignoring the Plain Facts”. Ignoring the truth
hurts people because they feel like they are doing the right thing but later
they realized it and feel guilty. The fourth one is about “Stereotypes and Cliches”.
Prejudgment is judging a person before you know them. This is bad because you
are separate and truly never know his abilities in certain things. Finally, the
fifth one is about “Out and Out Lies”, which causes the conformation of the lie
because we already know the truth.
In my opinion, I disagree with
Ericsson about the white lies always hurting someone. She says that the person
lying is trying to act better than the person who is lied to, but I think that
is wrong. Sometimes, people lie to help each other out. I know that there are
times when I have told my parents little white lies that made them feel better
for the moment. Sometime it helps them to bring back their confidence about
something and then they can move on. For example, last month my parents were really
upset with my brother because he wanted to leave home. He was really mean with
my parents. He says I do not want to stay in the same house with you because
you are not my parents. You do not understand my feelings and do not give me freedom
like other people. My parents were totally depressed and lost. I convinced them
that he was drunk and said that it was not true because he was unaware of what
he was saying at that time. He does not know what he said yesterday. And my
parents believed me. Because my parents are self-confident, they met with him
and asked about yesterday. Is your brother right that you were drunk and said that
or is that true what you said to us? He was like, yes and I am really sorry
about yesterday. If I say something so bad about you then I am sorry. That time
I was drunk, and I did not know what I said. So I am not going do it again in my life. Sometimes
lying can be a good thing to do.